It doesn't matter what the reason is. It doesn't matter who initiated it. It doesn't matter how long you've been together. Breakups suck by default, and there's no easy way of going about them if you've really opened your heart to someone. The truth of the matter is that most of us will experience breakups at one point or another in our lives, and we will have to attempt to navigate the sea of heartbreak. Don't let this scare you, readers, I have good news: there ARE ways to jump start your heart to help you feel normal again. With baby steps, patience and a little bestie/retail therapy, you'll be ready for your next romantic adventure in no time.
- First things first: get rid of all photos, text messages, emails, and any other memorabilia that could remind you of your ex. The last thing you need is to reminisce about all the good times you had when you're feeling lonely.
- Sometimes, breakups inspire less-than-good ideas to cut your own bangs or dye your hair a color that you wouldn't normally opt for. Trust us, if you're looking for a radical change post-breakup, leave it to the professionals (we can help you with that!).
- Chances are that right after the breakup, you're probably feeling like you want to cry most of the time. In the early stages, a Netflix marathon or your favorite chick flick on repeat can be a great way to spend your time at home when you're a little too blubbery for socialization.
- While it may be tempting to want to go party with your friends to distract yourself from a bad breakup, it's actually better to stay away from alcohol for a little while. Since it's a depressant, you're more likely to feel worse than you did before once all the fun feelings wear off.
- Should you decide to neglect suggestion #4, do not, I repeat, DO NOT call or text your ex! I 100% promise you, there is no breakup that can't be made worse by a drunk dial.
- Make a list of all the reasons why you broke up, and keep it on you at all times. Every time you're reminded of something endearing or noteworthy, whip out your list and remind yourself of all the reasons why you aren't good for each other. This will train your brain to be more realistic about what happened rather than resort to emotionalism (which we are all guilty of).
- Treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure with your besties (again, we would love to help you with that).
- Spend time with friends and family members that you can really trust and be yourself around. There is nothing worse than feeling brokenhearted and like you can't talk to anyone about what's going on inside your noggin.
- For heaven's sake, DO NOT make a playlist of all the songs that remind you of your ex. Only tears can ensue. Try this empowering breakup playlist instead:
- Eat as healthily as you possibly can! What you put into your body affects how you think, feel, and behave. The healthier you eat, the better your moods will be (cutting out soda, dairy, caffeine, sugar, and processed foods will make a huge difference).
- That being said, a pint of Ben and Jerry's really does help sometimes.
- Get a facial. Having glowing, radiant, healthy, clear skin is certainly a plus when you're feeling down.
- Massages significantly lower blood pressure and allow you to completely relax, which sometimes doesn't happen very often soon after a breakup. Treat your muscles to a little TLC, they deserve it.
- Go for a run, or even a 20 minute walk. You know what they say about endorphins...
- Get your beauty sleep! A full night's rest makes all the difference in the world on your health, your skin, your mood, your ability to focus and think clearly, EVERYTHING! I can guarantee this factor will affect whether or not you have a good day or a want-to-stay-at-home-and-cry day.
- Make yourself laugh. If this means buying hilarious magnets to put on your fridge or a quirky book to keep you busy, so be it.
- Pick up a new hobby that you didn't have time for before: playing guitar, reading, crossword puzzles, kickboxing, yoga, blogging, anything to keep you busy!
- Work towards that promotion at work, getting good grades, or just being more productive in general. In order to have self-esteem, one must perform esteemable acts, and you'll feel great knowing you've accomplished something difficult.
- DON'T jump into another relationship right away. It's important to take time to process your emotions before you start something new. Plus, you're probably going to be talking about your ex a lot, which is not very attractive to brand spankin' new significant others.
- DO go on dates! There's nothing wrong with keeping yourself busy on a Friday night if a cute stranger wants to take you out.
- While you're at it, spend some time with your friends! They probably miss you, and NOTHING cures a heartbreak faster than laughing your tush off with your besties.
- Go on a vacation! Taking yourself out of a familiar environment can make it much easier to take your mind off of triggers that make you think of your ex. Don't forget your super cute luggage tags!
- Get some Vitamin D and go play in the sun (make sure you wear sunscreen)!
- Deep clean your living space. This is a really great idea for a couple of reasons: since you're likely to spend more time at home, you want to be living in a clean and fresh environment. On top of that, it keeps you busy so you're not obsessing about who your ex might be dating.
- Go shopping! They call it retail therapy for a reason. Buy some new makeup, a new purse, or maybe some new nail polish in your favorite shade.
- Avoid the temptation to revisit past relationships. They ended for a reason, and the last thing you need are rehashed feelings about problems that have long been solved on top of your sad breakup feelings.
- Set aside a certain amount of time to feel bad, and then cut yourself off. Feeling sad all day will only perpetuate the negative feelings.
- Remember that incompatibility does not reflect anything about your worth, your interests, your success, or your goals. You are still you, no matter who you date. If you can learn to love and accept who you are, you'll feel better faster AND attract more likeminded individuals.
- If you're looking for revenge, remember that nothing works better than being successful and happy. This is by far the best advice any of the Got Beauty Girls have received, and can only bring the most positive results imaginable.
- Finally, if all else fails, get a cat (or five) and become a crazy cat lady.
Posted by Sadie Upwall
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